PhD stress: don’t ignore the warning signs!

phd stressIn my last post, I said that a PhD is not stressful by nature. I never meant to argue that PhD stress is not real if you experience it.

Stress is real, it has real physical effects, and if ignored it can severely affect your life beyond just your PhD.

I say that a PhD is not stressful by nature because if you see stress as just being an unavoidable and necessary part of the process, then you will ignore it. If a PhD just is stressful, then there’s nothing you can do about it.

Stress is a warning sign that something is wrong, and ignoring it and trying to work through it by sheer force of will can only make things worse.

PhD stress: signs you should not ignore

  • Constantly feeling you can’t work hard enough
  • Feeling overwhelmed by the workload
  • Felling like you are not working to your true ability
  • Inability to focus
  • Feeling like nothing you do has any impact, and that you have no control
  • Feeling that even easy things have become difficult
  • Constant fear of failure
  • Feeling like you don’t belong on a PhD program, and that you will be “found out”
  • Physical or mental exhaustion

Just working harder, or trying to be more organised is not going to make a difference if you feel any of these things. You must address the root of the problem.

Slow down

The most important thing to do (and often the hardest, when under pressure) is to slow down.

Give yourself time to think, and simplify what you are trying to do.

Ask yourself…

At a simple, practical level, reducing the number of things you are working on is a good start

  • How many different things are you trying to work on at the same time?
  • If you were to just focus on one thing, what would it be?
  • How can you break it down into steps, and what’s the simplest thing you can do?

This is easy in principle, BUT there may be deeper psychological forces at play.

If you feel you cannot simplify things, or if you try and it doesn’t work then you have to go deeper…

How do you react when things go wrong?

When something goes wrong, how do you react? Do you take it as personal failure? Do you just run from it to check email?

Or do you engage with the problem at hand and find a creative solution?

The only thing which is inevitable in research is that things will go wrong. It’s how you react when this happens that is the determining factor in success or failure.

Fears

Fear can be a cause of stress, and it can be profoundly limiting. You may not fear the work, directly, but it can often take on a deeper meaning.

  • What does the PhD mean to you? Is it a measure of your self-worth?
  • If you were to fail, what would that mean about you?
  • When you work, do you fear that whatever you do won’t be good enough?
  • Does that fear prevent you doing your best work?
  • Are you afraid to make mistakes?

Letting go

Obviously, failing your PhD is tough, but it is not the worst thing that could happen.

The key is to trust in your own ability to cope with whatever happens.

In 2006, I decided to quit my PhD. I was stressed, exhausted, and thought I was going to fail, so what was the point in continuing?

I rehearsed what I would say to my supervisor, my family, my friends. I thought about what I would do after I quit… It might be hard to find a job, but I would manage somehow.

But then I realised there were still a few things I could try to make my research work. So I figured I might as well give it a shot, but if it didn’t work then I would quit.

Doing things meticulously, regardless of the outcome

I didn’t want to make some half-committed effort. If I was going to quit, I wanted to know that I had done my best.

So I went back to the lab and decided that I would do these last few things as carefully as possible, whether I thought it would work or not.

And because I did things meticulously… they started to work.

I was no longer afraid of failure, and so I could just focus on doing the work to the best of my ability. This is what saved my PhD.

Trust in your own ability that whatever happens, success or failure, you will be OK. You will cope. You will find a way.

Don’t just accept stress as a normal part of a PhD, and don’t ignore it. Address the fear, acknowledge that stress is a signal that something is wrong, only then will you be able to dedicate yourself fully to your work, and achieve what you are truly capable of.

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Comments

  1. geekynerdyme says

    Hi there. I can relate much to what you just written here. I’ve been on the same dilemma for 2.5 years now. As hard as I tried to work and understand what I’m doing, I ended up rehearsing in my mind about quitting (like rehearsing in front of the mirror as if I am talking to my parents and my supervisor). Haha. I like doing research but I began to hate it, I was discouraged and had this regret of getting into a PhD program. I got into this self-sabotaging phase wherein I was already asking myself if I was doing it for myself or for other people or if my research was not enough. And yeah… Waking up in the morning seems so hard and tiring to do. I lost my confidence on my research topic too and I even made reservations for a student counseling service in my university.

    But there’s more to life than doing or having a PhD, they say. So I guess I will just have to let things go and do what I can do with the time that is given to me. I chose this life so I will have to make most of it. If nothing works after 3 years, it’s not the end of me.. or the world (that doesn’t care either). As a friend of mine said: Just do your best, Do just your best, Not over your best, Sometimes you need to rest.

  2. NS says

    Hi. James thanks for the article. I myself am struggling in my doctorate studies… I ended up joining a lab whose work I was not very passionate about but I had little choice then because else I had to quit the program after completion of coursework.. uncertain about getting a position again I stayed back… I tried adjusting in the lab and trying to start liking my work but 2 years down the lane I am yet not satisfied with my life… I am interested in another subject and I applied to other places but applications got turned down due to lack of positions… I am facing all the above signs of stress and feel absolutely demotivated and distressed.. I have been thinking of quitting but I am unable to do so because i feel really uncertain about my future and the lack of support from family and friends… I have a good academic record but now I get the feeling that I am not even upto the mark to contribute anything to science… but I cannot think my life without getting to do science… I really want to do Phd in area of my interest… my health and mental peace have both deteriorated… I tried giving myself time to make things work… but nothing is seeming to… I have never felt so low in my life… i want to follow my passion but till now I am not seeing any ray of hope…

  3. PhD student says

    I hope you could imagine how glad I am to read this article! It was exactly what I feel the past couple of months. I Moved to a new country to start the phd right after my graduation. I didn’t really have time to think if this is the right choice for me. Only an intuition and a good feeling that I m doing the right thing. In the beginning it was all ok: Ive been working in a regular routine basis 9-6, being happy, maintaining social life, exercise and suddenly some unexpected deadlines came out of nowhere. Eventually I considered as the right option to work more hours and stay till late in the evening at the office. As a result I started meeting serious sleep problems, being irritated by everything, eventually not being able to focus and consistently failing to follow my weekly plan. I felt like time was never enough, that I don’t work as hard and efficient as I could, and I will be found out and kicked out because I don’t deserve this position and I waste their money and time.

    Really, I owe you a huge thank you man! I will try to follow your advise and get some extra consultation at the same time.

  4. Sam says

    Hi All,

    I am considering a PhD and stress is something I am extremely worried about.
    I am recovering from an anxiety disorder so blaming myself and seeing myself as a failure is something I am familiar with. I question whether starting a PhD is the best thing for my health even though i do want to do research and am excited to start.
    Would anyone be able to suggest what the best thing would be in this situation? How do I prevent becoming stressed and enjoy the phd?

    • Lost & Not Found...Yet says

      Hi Sam,
      My advice, though certainly not sage advice, is to be in it for the right reasons. Do some soul searching. Do you truly need one to do what you want to do? Are you doing it to prove to anyone, yourself included, that you can? (Btw- that’s not a good reason at all) Then if you decide to move forward, plan to adress stress. It will come up. Don’t forget to take breaks, have a real life outside of it too. Shore up a support system that will be there no matter what. Ask for help often. Stay connected. Above all, make a schedule for the whole thing that makes sense and is on your terms. Set your own goals and deadlines, and allow wiggle room for life, because I guarantee you will find that life throws curve balls. Life doesn’t care that you have a paper to write. Then, enjoy the ride. I’m also sure you will discover more about yourself than you ever knew, and to me, the process is a bit like a rebirth. You go in as you are, but you will be different in some very interesting ways on the way out. It’s a challenge, no doubt, but can be worth the investment.

  5. Lost & Not Found...Yet says

    Even though this post is “dated” in our fast paced e-world, it hits it dead on for me. I went from a bachelor’s to a Ph.D., and am struggling with finishing. 13 years total of my life, which is in truth, about half my life. Midway through, I had a breakdown, went through a divorce, and have been successfully working in my field for 2 years under the guise of internship. Being a single mom of 2, working in a field where I am responsible for the mental health and well being of children, and feeling like a failure because I left off at chapter 3. Right before I defended, I got a serious case of “i will never be good enough.” Even though I have no evidence at all to show I’m not, it paralyzes me daily. I have everything and everyone riding on my success, and it’s crushing. Even my advisor is confused and says why aren’t you done? You didn’t have but a little editing to go. I wish I could find that place of balance where I realize it doesn’t have to change the world, it only has to get done. Thinking that way brings up all kinds of unresolved grief, and even the notion of the perfectionist in me still asking “sure, it might pass, but how much better could it have been?” I have recently begun talking with a counselor. And her biggest message to me that I am working to swallow? Of course you’re stuck. You don’t feel worthy of finishing, so if you did, that would challenge you beyond where you are. If you are worthy, then what? Hopefully I’ll post again, with those very hard earned 3 letters, after my name. They can become the most difficult personal journey.

  6. paul says

    I started a PhD in 2011 which turned out to be a complete disaster. My father was diagnosed with terminal cancer a few days before it started and died 6 months later. The PhD itself was poorly planned, nothing was set-up but the worst thing was my two supervisors.The lab PI is very hands off and the post doc ended up being a complete bully, the previous phd student had dropped out after 6 months because of him as I later found out.
    needless to say about 1 year in I had a complete breakdown and ended up with my PI and myself sitting with the Dean of postgraduate studies. We resolved to change the project and separate myself from the post doc (he has now been moved out the lab). I produced a lot of data which was great, I felt really great. However, I am now at the point where I am analysing the data and writing (I have 5 months to hand in). I find myself working with a great programmer who can implement any analysis I want but I don’t know If what I am doing the right thing, should I use this analysis or not, the results of some analysis have yielded some interesting results which could very interestinf

  7. Daragh says

    Hi James, I spent time working in a research capacity at the School of Physics at Edinburgh uni. The feeling of being “found out” is extremely common – I’ve battled with it throughout my entire life in academia and in the commercial world.

    You’re absolutely right that letting go is the answer. I’ve found that mindfulness meditation is a wonderful method for practicing that.

    As it happens, I’ve written a long article about impostor syndrome and mindfulness meditation that I hope will be useful to your audience. It’s located here – I hope I’m not overstepping the mark by leaving a link here: http://www.geekmindfitness.com/mindfulness/how-mindfulness-meditation-stopped-me-feeling-like-a-fake/

    Many thanks,
    Daragh

  8. jewel says

    I’m in my 5th semester and had just felt as if I had been stabbed in my heart when I presented my tentative abstract and feel like what I had done so far is insignificant. I’m collecting myself at the moment. Thanks for this inspiring writing.

  9. Sundus says

    Hello James,

    I hope you are doing well. I a PhD Scholar and I needed your valuable help. Please can I have your email address for emailing you my concerns.

    Waiting for your kind reply.

    Thank you :)
    Kind Regards.

  10. Frustrated says

    I just started my PhD few months back in an interrelated field on a very interesting research project. I came into a PhD program straight away after my Bachelor and Master in completely different country and somehow different field. I just love research and doing PhD was my dream. Since the very first month I started realizing, I just know nothing even the basics. I try my best but I feel, I am the worst PhD student in my lab. With every new morning, I feel like it will be the last day of my PhD as my supervisor will ask me to quit because he would never wish to give a huge funding to a person who don’t know what to do and how things work. I feel frustrated 24/7. I am there where I always wanted to be. I am trying to do my best but I think being top in your classes was just useless, I am not good at anything nor in industry (because I don’t like it) nor in research (because I know nothing). May be, I am the person who was not supposed to be on earth because I am not good at nothing

    • James Hayton says

      not supposed to be on Earth? That’s ridiculous! Of course you are supposed to be here! If ever in doubt, just do something kind for a stranger and see how they react. You have the potential to positively affect the world around you, and that’s enough of a reason to be here.

      As for the PhD, slow down. If you aren’t skilled yet you can learn, but it will take patience on your part. Pick one thing and take your time, and do not fear making mistakes.

      • Frustrated says

        Thanks for such a nice response. Before starting the PhD, being an intelligent student I thought I know everything but now I feel completely different. I feel, I should go for another bachelor first.
        I really liked the advice of being slow down in the post as well but I came in between the project and I am trying to deal with multiple subprojects at a time. I am trying to give my best in all of them (though most of them are completely different from my previous studies). Now I afraid that if I slowed down and focused on everything step by step I will lose my position (which I am sure is not the case as the supervisor and other colleagues always motivate me and tell me that I am performing much better but I have fear inside which I cannot overcome).

        • James Hayton says

          Of course you can. It might be difficult, but it’s not impossible. Just try one day at a time, focus on one part of one project, and whatever problem you face, stick with it until you figure it out.

        • A fellow stressed grad student says

          You sound REALLY stressed. Don’t try to suffer through this alone! Changing subjects and trying to adapt to life in a new country and (I’m assuming) doing all of this in a foreign language? That’s not all extremely difficult! And it’s very impressive that you are doing that in addition to dealing with the stress of a PhD program, which would be stressful even if it were in the field in which you did your BA and MA and in your home country and first language. Find people who you can trust to help you through this. Take advantage of the resources your university offers (free counseling? Free fitness classes? Free theater/game tickets? Free chair messages? Many universities have a variety of resources designed to help grad students deal with stress so ask around and look up your grad college’s events and resources online.) Be sure to take time for yourself by exercising, meditating, sleeping, eating nutritious food, and walking outdoors as soon as the weather allows (and if you suffer from seasonal depression due to lack of sun, get some vitamin D supplements!). Grad school is a marathon not a sprint, so find ways to create balance and harmony in your life and let those things replace the fear.

          • A fellow stressed grad student says

            Edit: I meant “that’s all extremely difficult!” NOT: “that’s not all extremely difficult”

          • Frustrated says

            Thanks a lot dear for such nice suggestions. I usually never go out, never enjoy life, thinking that I need to be good at my job first. I will try my best to adopt every good thing you said. Thanks once again

  11. Mim says

    OMG! I am so stressed! Working full time, 4 kids, a loving husband and a PhD that is driving me crazy! I have all the warning signs and more, I don’t want to quit but I don’t know how to keep going! Finding a balance is so hard, the hours are too few, the day’s run so fast! I found a book “how to write your dissertation 15 mins a day” and it’s kept me going but I need some psychological help! Thanks for this…. Phew!

    • NN says

      Oh, you even don’t know how well I understand you! It is really very difficult to combine PhD and family… You can not allow yourself staying in the lab till late at the night, if your kids don’t sleep well at the night, you can not concentrate. All colleagues talk to you only about kids. You constantly have a feeling that you don’t perform well. You don’t want to fail because you don’t want your kids, husband, supervisor see you failing… My baby blues turned into phd-long lasting blues and I still could find a way to escape…

  12. Abdulrahman says

    This is an excellent article, its helped me to rethink about my thesis and how should I develop it. Fears of failure is dominating my thoughts I am working hard but still thinking am I the right person to study PhD!. Seeking for the best put much pressure on myself that I couldn’t function and start analyzing every email I received from my supervisor!

    Thanks alot for giving me hope that I am not the only one who is suffering during his PhD journey!

  13. Kirsten says

    This is an important discussion. It has been my experience (personal and observed) that the phd is challenging in ways that I have not encountered in lower graduate studies or the workforce. It is helpful to understand why, and how to manage.

    One source of stress I have not seen mentioned here relates to the effects of doing qual research with populations that have been through trauma (refugees, prisoners, war-affected, extreme poor, abused, etc). I recently met with other researchers who were experiencing “vicarious trauma” from fieldwork research, in an effort to help each other learn how to manage its effects. My take away was that this form of trauma is very real and quite prevalent in the social sciences.

  14. Leah says

    I entered an academic competition last year, and put so much pressure on myself needing to be “the best” that I couldn’t function. The best thing I did was very similar to you James – I decided to quit. And then thought well, if I’m going to quit, I might as well do the work anyway. Taking the pressure of the end goal away removed the barrier I had put up and I was able to focus without judgment. It’s my go-to method now if I feel anxiety creeping in.

    On another note, anxiety is no small matter. I’ve also sought help through reading many blogs and seeing a psychologist. I really think that perfectionistic tendencies in the academic world can be balanced out with good strategies. To think I could achieve highly without the constant anxiety was a foreign perspective for me. I thought I achieved because I cared so much, but the caring really does interfere with your abilities. Work in progress, but it’s all part of the journey…

    • Bronagh says

      Oh Leah- this rings a bell to me. To put into context…. my PhD was a 3 year-funded position. Started in October 2010. I just submitted my soft copy today…..May 2015. I have been writing for the past 12 months, procrastinating for 3 months prior to that…. finishing experiments for 2 months prior to that, and was on “temporary withdrawal” for 4 months, for stress/anxiety/burnout prior to that, i.e. the and of my 3 years.

      I realise after this, I had a MASSIVE fear of writing. A massive disbeleif in my abilities. A massive perfectionist in me. A massive self-critic. Basically – I was my biggest barrier. I found myself coming to the conclusion, also through discussion with family/friends/supervisor/collegues- “if i just cared less” and had an “it will do” attitude- I would get on so much better, in life. I could see the logic in this conclusion and still can. However, applying it is another thing. I don’t even know how I am still here to write this. People wonder how the hell I didn’t quit- again, I am not sure. Anyone else I know would have quite or just been able to get through it quicker rather than suffer. ” caring” casues me more bother than its worth. What is really sad is- I feel useless and if anything, being so “bad” at wite up is convinving me I am crap at science, a crap scientist and I cant do this as a career. I missed countless family events, social events with friends, my friend’s wedding(!), family time, potential earning time, life time, living. As you say- its a working progress. I hope you can achieve a better balance. People (family) tell me this as well. I am CONFUSED. Any advice would be appreciated. x

  15. Sarah says

    I’ve also been ignoring all of the warning signs of stress. I also felt like since I’m a hyper-sensitive person, I was just blowing things out of proportion. I didn’t even realize how unhappy I was until it was too late.
    I was recently set a deadline to have 2 papers written (one being my first, first-author paper and the other being a review paper that a group of us are working on) by August 1st. Well, it’s August 1st today and neither paper is complete. The stress has been piling on me and I decided that I was just gonna work through it until the deadline was met. Poor life decision. This last week, I’ve been having back-to-back panic attacks to the point that it’s completely halted my progress. It was further escalated by constant suicidal thoughts. And I knew it was nothing I would follow through with, but it’s been very stressful to deal with. I ran out of coping mechanisms and it took a friend talking to me to seek professional help. I’m still struggling with trying to give myself a break and basically be compassionate toward my own needs. It’s always been easier for me to be sympathetic toward other people, but I could never cut myself some slack.
    Reading through your blog has been helping me in letting me take care of myself. At the end of the day, I’m way more important than any PhD program. So, thank you. You’ve given me the courage to write that email to my PI to let him know I’m dealing with a medical emergency and that I need to take the day off.

    • Fei says

      Hi Sarah,

      I sincerely hope that you have found a way to manage your stress, it sounds that you do need some professional support, I am not a psychiatrist but I am researching on stress and burn-out prevention in clinical psychology. The method I am applying is mindfulness with strong focus on self-development. Now I am at the final writing up stage, and from my own experience and 108 participants (68% are PhD or postdocs) first hand experience, I can really confirm that it does work significantly to reduce perceived stress level at the same time to increase the level of awareness and self-compassion in particular difficult situations! Like James and many other PhDs around the world, I also had a period of low, little-to-zero progress and high intention to quit, and I even checked out what the college drop outs would do afterwords (there is a fun story to tell if we ever meet). If it was not because of the solid mindful daily practice (very similar like what James described how he dealt with stress), I would be sure quit back in 2012. Now during my writing up stage I become even more conscious on how valuable experience is doing a PhD then presenting it to the world. I feel like the whole PhD period is like a long pregnancy and writing up stage is like giving birth process, the pain is inevitable yet meaningful with a rewarding outcome. After giving birth to our first daughter in March 2013 through natural home birthing, I am now also very confident to give birth to my PhD mindfully. I wish all the PhDs around the world have enough courage, understanding, patience and determinations to meet and overcome the inevitable difficulties and even failures along the way. Trust the life gives us the right and needed challenge at the right time for our development and growth, far beyond the PhD. All the best,

      Fei

  16. Bianka says

    Thanks James! I read your blog at the right time. I definitely have all the symptoms and I have my qualifier in 3 weeks but still finding it hard to focus. Reading you post has really boost my confidence. Thanks again.

  17. magdalena says

    More than one year later than the last comment, and I feel such a huge comfort from all this reading. I need to finish my PhD. Not because I want to, since I know too much about how Science goes and I know that I don’t want to dedicate my whole life to that theater play. But everybody around me is telling me: finish it, or you may regret it someday! I am almost sure that I won’t, but not completely, so I am taking the advice from those people that I love so much 😀

    I found a way to be happy during my PhD: take some time off to do a course about something that I love (aviation), to be able to have another career path and not be completely left in the void after finishing that disgraceful university diploma.

    Let’s be strong and kick some ass :) yes we can!! 😀

  18. Liz says

    My supervisor said a while ago that she thought there was a positive benefit to stress. Having said that, I see the negative results of stress in her life all the time: she is emotionally up and down, when she is down she takes it out on others, and she puts too much effort into things that are not very important and then gets angry when she doesn’t get the appreciation she feels she deserves.
    Is there a positive side to stress? Or is stress always bad?

  19. Deepak Ponvel Chermakani says

    Hi All,

    I did my Bachelor Degree and Master Degree, and then went to attempt a PhD. I just completed my first year of PhD.

    I will say, just focus on doing something useful and original in your life. Don’t care whether you will get the PhD or not, or whether you piss off your adviser or not.

    Even if you have to quit after 5 years or 10 years, its that many years of learning. All that time did not go to waste.

    I know a lot of people whose PhD theses are as boring and ordinary as Sh**

    100 years down the line, people will not ask how many PhDs you got, but what you did in life (like Steve Jobs).

    Thats all folks !!!
    -Deepak

  20. Kaleb says

    Thank you so much for the great advice. When I started my PhD 5 years ago, I was told that the road to PhD was going to help me develop my academic track as well as personal charachter. But 5 years later, I feel like I am far less mature than i was when I began my PhD study. Having spent most of my time lived with constant fear of failure and feeling inadequat, I have started to question if I have anything worth at all to contribute. Wondering if I qualify for anything. Going home everyday feeling like you have wasted another day without any producing anyting tends to take a toll. The end seems nowhere near and I have no idea how long my lab is going to tolerate having me around wasting resources.

  21. lak says

    Dr. James,
    You are doing a GREAT SERVICE by sharing your ideas/experience. Thank you very much.
    I’m planning to start a PhD recently. I have to do it not just because i want to do it but unless i may not survive in this career. I think this is weird.
    However, i think i am capable of doing a PhD. The word “PhD” is a scaring thing for me. I want to change. I want to make this interesting.
    I found a talk which you delivered in you tube “How to get through your PhD without going insane” which made me feel inspired. Thank you again and hope your blog will help me in future as well..
    Moreover, i am KEEN TO KNOW your opinion regarding the stress….as in…
    how to balance academic life (when we are in stress) and personal life (family..spouse, children, household work etc..

  22. Diana says

    Wow…. Not that I wish other people to feel like I do, but it was a relief to see that I am not the only one feeling like this. I have all the signs, and I feel at the limit of everything. I am really tired of feeling a failure, useless, having criticizers but no one with any good advise… Moreover, tired of having people abusing of their power to make me feel as good as garbage. I guess I will find a way of managing all this.

  23. Jessica says

    I needed to hear this. Thank you so much. I have all the signs and it has now developed into a full fledged fear of even going to the lab. I am so tired and so clueless but I will re-read and apply this article.

    • James Hayton says

      It’s OK to ask for help! Most universities have a counseling service you can use and it can be very useful to let all that stress out in a safe and confidential environment

  24. Mopple says

    I really wish I had read this a year or two ago. I am near the end of my PhD and have spent far too long feeling awful, physically ill, getting barely any sleep, spending as much time as possible in the lab and getting no results. To the point where my supervisor has told me how unhappy they are with me and they are not sure if they want to sponsor me anymore. I feel as though I have worked hard but not achieved anything, and that everything that goes wrong now is because I am useless and a failure. I’ve never been good at asking for help from my supervisor and that is a huge part of the problem, I kept telling myself that if I was really smart enough to do a PhD I would be smart enough to figure it out on my own.

    The worst part is it is all my fault and I know it, but I am a broken man now.

    I implore any PhD student with time left to read this post and take in EVERYTHING

    • Min says

      How things going now? Do you still continue your PhD? because i’m having exactly the same situation as yours and in a process to decide whether to put a stop to my PhD

      • Mopple says

        Yeah I am continuing. I am writing up now, in fact nearly finished. I am feeling a lot better now but not after some serious dark times. I am working 14-16 hour days to finish off the last bits of experimental work/write up but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel so it is not so bad.

        All I would say about that is if it is making you ill, then seriously consider your options. That doesn’t mean quit, but perhaps seek a doctor’s advice and maybe take some time off (you can use this time to brush up on areas you believe are weak, but more importantly, relax).

        How far in are you?

        • Gaurav Shukla says

          Hi guys,
          Same story here and i have just finished my first year and my bosses keep telling me that they are unhappy and i have given only very limited output till now and they dont see it turning up as a successfull doctorate after two years.
          Its a hell!!!!

  25. Welsh Trainer says

    I have been feeling like this. I tried to tell my department but they ignored my email. What I find odd is that we are expected to work to a contract but we have no rights, unlike employees.

  26. kent jones says

    This is very interesting. My wife recently completed a doctorate. I have never seen someone so emotionally distressed. I have supported her throughout, it was five years of real torture. She finished two months ago. Two weeks ago out of the blue, she asked for a divorce. It was so shocking to me. I am convinced that the studies is part of the problem, but she does not want to see a counsellor. Any ideas to help, I dearly love my wife and do not want to lose her.

  27. Royal says

    that is reality about academics at this level just like at many other levels. the advice given here is something worth a shot.

  28. Richard says

    I have been ignoring all of these warning signs and valuing my pride too much. This has led me to blame my stress on almost anything like my less than perfect relationship with my supervisors, my lack of knowledge, my busy social life and even the weather!! After a supervisor meeting where my work had been torn apart and my confidence and drive was at an all time low I stumbled upon this website and it has given me the reassurance that despite the fact the other research students around me seem to be gliding throughout this process I am not the only one. Since the beginning of my research I have believed that I am not good enough and knowing that other people too feel that they will be “found out” has taken a huge weigh off of my shoulders.

    I hope these tips really will aid me in turning my research around and that I, too, will have a success story.
    Thank you.

  29. Daria says

    Thank you James for this article. I have all the warning signs, and time is very limited now, I think no matter what, I really need to slow down and simplify things down — because I did all the wrong things: be more organised, work harder, read more, when in my heart Im really clueless.

    thanks again for this.

  30. says

    I think it helps immensely to acknowledge the possibility of quitting and having a exit strategy or “plan B”. Even before my PhD, it always gave me a feeling of certainty that there would be another way even if something went wrong. Instead of working with the back to the wall, you can freely choose your way because you know you have another way you can go if necessary. That way your work is not something you absolutely must do, it’s something you choose to do.

    • Konstantin says

      That is excellent advise. For me, your words mean that the PhD is not who we are, it is something we do. Realizing this makes a big difference, but it is not easy to embrace for me at least. The question is, if I’m not a PhD, then what am I?

  31. says

    Wow! James.. your post comes right on time. At the point of losing direction, losing hope and don’t know where to restart, I found this entry makes me believe there must be something that I can do to move on. Constant fear of failure that I experienced from the beginning had disappeared.

    Thanks!

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